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This is the Tarot Professionals Tarot Blog Hop, where a group of Tarot Professionals share the same topic across their individual blog posts.
This month, Fiona Benjamin asked us to write about tarot for better relationships.
Tarot for Your Self by Mary K Greer is an indispensable book for those who wish to use tarot to develop and understand themselves. It's useful for anyone wanting to learn tarot -- it's full of techniques and exercises that could make any tarot teacher or occult community organizer light up with ideas.
The Court Cards
One of the baffling sets of cards in the tarot deck are those slathered with images of nobility: The court cards.
Tarot consists of 22 Major Arcana -- The World, and The Fool, for example, 40 minor arcana -- Aces to Tens of each of the four suits, and 16 Court Cards.
In many decks, the Court Cards are designated as Pages, Knights, Queens, and Kings. Each suit has its own representative who models the traits of their element or suit, such as Earth (Pentacles), Water (Cups), Air (Swords), and Fire (Wands).
Meet and Greet: 16 Personalities
No one person will fit neatly into one of 16 personalities.
One might be the Queen of Pentacles in the kitchen, able to cook sumptuous and enticing foods. One might embody the Knight of Wands when it comes to professional interests, and pursue every opportunity without thinking it through. One might also be a Page of Cups romantically, erring on the side of innocence, ready to share messages of emotion, and full of nothing but dreams.
One of the exercises in Mary K Greer's Tarot for Your Self involves meeting each of the Court Card personalities at a party, and deciphering, based on their appearance and you responses, which cards who people you are interested in, who you don't want to spend time with, and more.
With this as inspiration, let's look at how to use Court Cards to improve our relationships.
Tarot Technique: Let's sort you lot out
It may be overwhelming to sort through 16 personalities at once, so here are some techniques to help you understand yourself, potential partners, and people you may clash with.
You're encouraged to take notes. Bonus points for sharing results and/or photos on social media (and letting me know so I can love on them!).
Technique One: Turn the Page
Draw all four Pages (or their equivalent).
Using each question separately, put them in order:
Who would you most want to babysit for?
Who would you trust most with a message?
Who reminds you most of your inner child?
You should have four sets of cards, appropriate to each situation. This can help you understand your relationship with younger people and may give you the opportunity to begin a dialog with yourself about communication and your feelings around youth.
Technique Two: Oh, What a Knight
Knights are a little aggressive, baby. They are equipped for battle.
This isn't Magic: The Gathering or Pokemon, but you will be matching knights up -- this time at random.
Blindly draw two knights at a time from the four you have set aside.
Which one wins at a battle for your interest at a noisy club or bar?
Which one do you feel you can trust with a mission involving a sacred relic?
Which one would you rather join you on an adventure?
Technique Three: No damsel in distress here
Having better relationships means leaving behind co-dependence and enablers. That can suck.
But it's what good Queens do.
For this technique, try putting your Queens in order.
Who do you most respect for her accomplishments?
Who do you most fear, based on her habits?
Who would you rather have as your ally?
This might help you better see your strengths, weaknesses, and aspirations.
Technique Four: The King
Which King are you most drawn to?
Which King do you feel has the best lesson to teach you now?
What King has the most rational insight to offer you now?
This exercise can help you establish possible boundaries for yourself and others, as well as practical expectations of yourself and others.
Gather the cards that you had the most negative feelings about or find the most resistance to.
Now select Court Cards that represent qualities you desire. What do you want to replace those respective personalities with?
For example, I need to learn not to be rash and jump at every opportunity the instant it enters my view. That's the Knight of Wands, which also appeared in a problem position in a recent card reading. Instead, I need to think things through.
To stay grounded, slow down, and study each opportunity, I can appreciate the energy of the Page of Pentacles.
To keep myself from acting with spontaneous passion, I can choose to clear the air and cut through the BS: It's time to pair that Page with the Queen of Swords.
Check back and pucker up Feb 9 for a brief study in kisses: How lip prints indicate personality traits.
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Tabitha Dial is a tarot, tea leaf reader, and creative mentor in Lexington, Kentucky. She facilitates the Create your Fate (Tarot and more) Meetup and teaches seminars at the Mystical Paranormal Fair once a month. Her poetry has appeared in articles on SpiralNature.com, in "Arcana: The Tarot Poetry Anthology", and in "Tarot in Culture" Volume Two.